Have being married for 3 years now and my husband has a son with another woman (pls drop your advised)

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Another true life story from my inbox, please read and drop your opinion.

Have being married for 3 years now and my husband has a son with another woman and he made me aware when the child was 4 years, although I did not know early that he has a son, we dated for 8 years before getting married.

A month to our wedding I discover he got another lady pregnant why I was already 4 months pregnant. The lady was a month pregnant. mind you am a health worker so we don't leave together, I go to visit him for few days then go back to my work post. the new lady that got pregnant for him said they being dating for 8 years too and that she has had several abortion too, but this current pregnancy's she said she is not going to abortion it because am also pregnant. She found out that we are about to get married and she was surprise about it but later agree for us to get married. we got married and eventually I gave birth, when my child was 2 year old my husband as me to take a loan for him in my name since am a government worker I can easy get a loan in my country, i agree and took the money loan, my husband said that he will be paying me little by little the amount that that they are going to be deducting for my salary.

but the problem is that my husband has refuse to pay the money as he promise and this has caused misunderstand between us, I reported him to his elder sister who is like his mom as she took care of him when he was a boy when their mother was not alive. My husband got more angry at me for reporting the matter to his sister, when am away from work he will bring in different woman to our home and this has added more issue between us. 

Along the line he convince me again to take another loan which I agreed cos I wanted to support him, but he still refuse to pay, and now when I get payed salary almost noting is left and the little that is left is not enough to take cake of me and my child, he does not drop money for the child to be taken care of so I am the one that is doing it alone. He has relocated to another place, as I speak now It don't even know where my husband leaves he don't  check up on me when am sick or his child, please I need your advised should I divorce him or not?

The divorce thing should come from you but what i think you must do is to report this matter to court or higher authorities to take charge, even if you husband don't want the marriage anymore he deserve to pay child support for the child and pay the money that he promised to pay back which you borrowed.

Chinedu Emmanuel is a seasoned marriage counselor and therapist hailing from Nigeria. With a deep commitment to strengthening relationships and fostering emotional well-being, he pursued higher education at the University of Lagos, earning a Bachelor's degree in Psychology. Driven by a passion for helping couples navigate the complexities of modern relationships, Chinedu Emmanuel furthered his studies at the University of Ibadan, where they earned a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology. Chinedu Emmanuel also completed a specialized certification in Marriage and Family Therapy at the renowned University of Toronto in Canada. Over the years, he have built a successful practice, offering invaluable insights and guidance to individuals and couples striving for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Chinedu Emmanuel's empathetic and solution-focused approach has earned them a reputation as a trusted and effective therapist in the field.

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